tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post1068877191688115271..comments2024-03-26T08:01:01.445-04:00Comments on 78 Notes to Self: A Tarot Journal: Tarot Boundaries: Significant or Insignificant OthersGinny Claytonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-52440456323597402352018-07-04T01:58:45.379-04:002018-07-04T01:58:45.379-04:00Tarot card reading help you find your soul mate, l...Tarot card reading help you find your soul mate, love and future prediction. Read more <a href="https://www.mpanchang.com/tarot-reading/" rel="nofollow"><b>Tarot Reading online </b></a><br />All Updateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05640533271425589625noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-37127882680700822272012-04-24T18:52:36.152-04:002012-04-24T18:52:36.152-04:00Ame, I understand the desire to reframe the questi...Ame, I understand the desire to reframe the question to deliver the most helpful reading you can. However, I think we can overdo this sometimes and assume we know what is best. Nowadays, I try to both address their stated question as it stands AND offer something that will empower/help.Ginny Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-39053151407731224002012-04-24T18:50:30.442-04:002012-04-24T18:50:30.442-04:00Brigit, yeah, I'm definitely a case-by-case ki...Brigit, yeah, I'm definitely a case-by-case kind of reader. I think we can tend to lump clients together based on the type of situation/question or reading requested and that's a dangerous pitfall because we assume so much when we do that. Each person's situation, no matter how similar it sounds to another's, is unique and deserves a unique and fresh perspective.Ginny Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-89924564289309268512012-04-24T12:20:49.242-04:002012-04-24T12:20:49.242-04:00This is a great post about an important topic. I ...This is a great post about an important topic. I will make this required reading for my students!Christiana Gaudethttp://tarotbychristiana.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-21553428207870633012012-04-24T12:00:57.182-04:002012-04-24T12:00:57.182-04:00I tend to be in a grey zone with this, too. I used...I tend to be in a grey zone with this, too. I used to never read for people who weren't present, but as you said sometimes it helps the querent understand the relationship better and is a very helpful thing to do. <br /><br />If people ask questions like, "will so-and-so ask me out?" or will they call, I use the reading to explore things like why don't you call that person or is this really a good relationship for you (i.e. what do you want in a relationship)? <br /><br />If people ask, "is my husband cheating on me," I turn it around and ask why they think he's cheating. Usually we can get to the heart of the matter which always seems to be one of two things: 1. he's leaving tell-tell signs such as staying out late, spending money on unusual things, smelling different, etc. or 2. the person asking is extremely insecure and is in danger of pushing him away, so we explore that. <br /><br />Every once in a while I'll break these rules. The last fair I went to, a guy who obviously had some mental issues (I was a psychologist) wanted readings on people who he thought were "up to no good." <br /><br />Rather than turn him away, I charged him less and used the time to try to reassure him and assuage his fears. I feel that was a better choice for his particular psychosis, and maybe even helped him battle the voices for a bit.Amehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18299858700071532845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-21929361182877019642012-04-24T11:38:36.227-04:002012-04-24T11:38:36.227-04:00Ginny, great post. I couldn't have said it bet...Ginny, great post. I couldn't have said it better myself.<br />It really IS a blurry line between what's 'ethical' and what's not. I like how you distinguish between what is helpful to the client and what is not. And it does need a case-by-case perspective.Brigit | Biddy Tarothttp://www.biddytarot.com/blog/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-90525333774003618872012-04-23T17:46:03.794-04:002012-04-23T17:46:03.794-04:00I tend to agree, Four Queens, because I'm not ...I tend to agree, Four Queens, because I'm not convinced of my own psychic abilities. I mean, I know I have them, I know it when "it" happens, but I can't call them up at will and I can't be sure that what I'm relaying IS psychic or just my finely tuned intuition -- which is DAMN good, I must say, but I can't go s far to say I read minds or get visual images of the other person. I just know stuff. So all that to say yeah, I agree :)Ginny Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-4669911441752210202012-04-23T13:27:28.008-04:002012-04-23T13:27:28.008-04:00Great article. I've never understood the very ...Great article. I've never understood the very hard and fast rules many have about not approaching the thoughts, feelings or behaviours of the other, absent person in the situation being addressed. I mean, how is a relationship reading supposed to work without some reference to the absent significant other? I use readings about absent parties in order to give the querent food for thought and fresh perspectives. I don't believe I'm psychic anyway - merely intuitive and good at using the messages and archetypes to tap into situations we all experience. I think that the 'invasion of privacy' idea is possibly more for readers who believe they can read minds and therefore don't want to give away the other person's position. I do not believe I can do that anyway, but I believe I can read situations fairly well and I believe that the cards can guide the querent towards more objective thinking..The Four Queenshttp://thefourqueens.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-73205432924413191392012-04-15T21:44:19.181-04:002012-04-15T21:44:19.181-04:00This post is very important, i like it!This post is very important, i like it!AugustoCrowleyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04794728060665693136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-74649331767720314802012-04-11T11:55:15.841-04:002012-04-11T11:55:15.841-04:00This is a very good discussion on reading for some...This is a very good discussion on reading for someone that the sitter asks about. I have always found it difficult, since the cards really want to address the person that is before them, but it is not impossible, it just has limitations. Thank you for the Tarot insight!<br /><br />Dennis Perez<br />Denver Tarot Reader<br />http://www.privatetarot.comDennis Perezhttp://www.privatetarot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-37033777564925018412012-04-05T19:41:40.796-04:002012-04-05T19:41:40.796-04:00Exactly, Zanna, unless something revealed as "...Exactly, Zanna, unless something revealed as "truth" in the cards can be verified with another source, I don't think it's wise to accept it. It MAY be true, or it may not be, but one may never know. And if you can't verify it, why should anyone make a decision based upon it? So I think even if one has no ethical bias against reading for third/fourth parties, one should at least question whether doing so is at all useful. In my experience, it depends on the unique situation of the client, but often it really isn't very useful at all.Ginny Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-81675793507888931202012-04-05T08:58:52.287-04:002012-04-05T08:58:52.287-04:00Great summary of this issue. I have tried all of t...Great summary of this issue. I have tried all of the approaches you described at one time or another (i.e., no readings about third parties; basing my decision on the situation; or answering any and all questions about third parties). I appreciate your comment about not being able to confirm the accuracy of a reading about "that other person." Many Tarot readers will say, "The cards don't lie. Everything I see in the cards is accurate, of course." Really? Wow. It concerns me that some clients seem to be willing to base their actions toward another person on what a reader sees in a few cards, especially when (in my experience) the cards often simply show the querent's mind set and fears about that person.Zanna Starrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596554739447170460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-47950021338237227542012-04-04T02:23:48.389-04:002012-04-04T02:23:48.389-04:00Thanks for sharing this information.Tarot card is ...Thanks for sharing this information.Tarot card is the good choice for knew about some information about our future.Tarot readinghttp://www.tanyatarot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-46051270499699728792012-03-27T11:09:14.007-04:002012-03-27T11:09:14.007-04:00I used to worry a lot about ethics at first and st...I used to worry a lot about ethics at first and started having trouble that could probably have been avoided if I wouldn't have worried about ethics. There're things one simply should do.Real Magic Spellshttp://www.spellcastersonline.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-73397000794024688012012-03-25T20:03:03.102-04:002012-03-25T20:03:03.102-04:00Katrina, that's a very natural way of being op...Katrina, that's a very natural way of being open to "the other" but not intentionally prying. Even though I will intentionally ask about the other when a client wants me to, I tend to focus more on what the client can do in his/her own thought process and life that moves towards making the other's thoughts/feelings/actions less significant. <br /><br />Yes, Andre, as we must all find that moral line on our own. And that is precisely why I wrote this post. :)Ginny Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-39364204666321714902012-03-25T15:21:01.157-04:002012-03-25T15:21:01.157-04:00I tend to be from the "I don't read for p...I tend to be from the "I don't read for people not present" camp, but am also open to when they show up in the reading on their own volition.<br /><br />With my counseling skills, I steer the client back into questions and guidance that will help them best navigate their own feelings and concerns in a given situation for focusing on the other can be just a distraction from facing those difficult feelings in many readings.<br /><br />When the other shows up in the cards, it's as if the Tarot, or the other person's spirit, has given us permission to explore their material, in which case I feel ethically clear on including the other's presence.<br /><br />Interestingly enough, the other rarely appears.<br /><br />Another great blog Ms Ginny!Katrina Whttp://tarotcounseling.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-57811158291929182582012-03-24T19:03:36.118-04:002012-03-24T19:03:36.118-04:00I've heard other readers say they believe taro...I've heard other readers say they believe tarot won't tell them what they're not supposed to know. I come from a different view on how the cards "work" so I don't really buy that, but in the same way, if reading for that "other-other" isn't clear, what use is it? Not much.Ginny Claytonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.com