tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post4041597359699689181..comments2024-03-26T08:01:01.445-04:00Comments on 78 Notes to Self: A Tarot Journal: Get the Most Out of Your Relationship Reading: Do's and Don'tsGinny Claytonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03759784851970527096noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-64235584001262722652013-03-24T11:55:39.473-04:002013-03-24T11:55:39.473-04:00Perhaps it does help to be an outsider - if only b...Perhaps it does help to be an outsider - if only because that means the person *knows* you can't be influenced by what all their other friends and family are saying/ thinking. It helps to be completely new to the situation, too. <br /><br />But also, sometimes you're just not ready to hear something, until you are. It's an inner change - and the next time the message is delivered to you, whoever or whatever delivers it this time, suddenly you can hear. It's not always the qualities of the messenger that make the difference!<br /><br />(I do this: I'll receive a reading as a complete revelation, then later look back through readings from years ago and find they were telling me precisely the same thing - it's just I was quite deaf at the time...)<br /><br />Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08993925796633388101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-8153470525369305202013-03-20T05:07:19.881-04:002013-03-20T05:07:19.881-04:00Yes, it's the same with me. Often what the car...Yes, it's the same with me. Often what the cards say goes against my better judgement but sometimes it's just evident from the beginning that the relationship will not work no matter how much the querent wishes for it to change and it's difficult to turn someone down then. <br />I also refuse to read on the same matter in quick succession but I have a friend who is very good at working the "but this and that has changed, now the overall situation must have changed" technicality. ;-) <br />So sometimes I just give in and do another reading which says exactly the same thing again. <br />Funnily enough that friend also consulted another reader - a man this time - and he said almost exactly the same thing. But whereas she never really took my advice seriously, she seems to believe him. Perhaps sometimes it takes a complete outsider. <br />My experience with that sometimes makes me ask whether I should refuse to read for friends or people I'm closely related to.Satuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01006690023752202536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-23708537274106670232013-03-19T18:30:05.923-04:002013-03-19T18:30:05.923-04:00As long as you are sure you are excluding your own...As long as you are sure you are excluding your own personal bias as much as you can, I think they will tire of hearing the same message again and again. The one thing I must stress, however, is that personal bias. There have been many times when the cards have advised an action I would personally not have endorsed. I have been surprised at times but remain the willing messenger of the cards, even if I, in all my own "wisdom" (heh) disagree. Sometimes the cards tell someone to wait it out and their love interest will come around. Personally, I might have said to dump them, but since the cards are saying otherwise, I say otherwise. More often than not, the cards are absolutely correct. <br /><br />That said, often the client is not ready to follow through on the cards' advice. This is why I tend to place certain limitations on clients asking for repeated readings on the same question or situation. I tell them that I am happy to read for them again when something within the situation (or within themselves) has changed or when a certain amount of time, say a few months, have passed. Ginny Clayton Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18429211666726488097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-35275029541872224352013-03-19T06:36:34.822-04:002013-03-19T06:36:34.822-04:00Once again, a very good post. I agree in most poin...Once again, a very good post. I agree in most points but I often find it hard to communicate it to my querents, especially the ones I'm personally close to. I have friends obsessing about relationships who keep asking me to do readings for them asking all the wrong questions and it's difficult to explain my view of things without sounding patronizing. <br />Especially when they keep asking the same questions about the same relationship and I keep coming up with the same answers, it can be pretty frustrating. Satuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01006690023752202536noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-67410809904682761702013-02-26T14:43:44.637-05:002013-02-26T14:43:44.637-05:00Thank you, thank you! Not just for this particular...Thank you, thank you! Not just for this particular post, but for years of blog entries. I only just discovered your blog last night and I have been eagerly reading through it all! So many good tarot thoughts are running through my head right now. Shelbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11367599360094467489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-37450190232964377452013-02-09T23:14:16.387-05:002013-02-09T23:14:16.387-05:00It's pretty easy for me to empathize with my c...It's pretty easy for me to empathize with my clients. I've been all kinds of stupid in love and feeling awkward and sheepish when asking for a reading, or doing my own reading after reading after reading on the guy...*le sigh* I know this well. I entirely understand the "I neeeeed to know" feelings but I also know what really works and what doesn't via tarot, so between both my sad experience and my knowledge and skill with tarot, I do hope to help. :)<br />Ginny Clayton Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18429211666726488097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-88007102099466295012013-02-09T21:12:40.967-05:002013-02-09T21:12:40.967-05:00I so agree with this. A lot of Tarot clients come ...I so agree with this. A lot of Tarot clients come for relationship readings. It just so happens that a lot of time they are in denial or desperate about their situation. If I don't tell them what they want to hear they may find another psychic until they finally get it. I have also helped a few clients get closure as well because coming to a reader was the only way to get those answers to questions they may have wanted to ask in order to move on. Good advice.Clarity Starhttp://claritystar.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-67033530496034068312013-02-08T19:46:11.856-05:002013-02-08T19:46:11.856-05:00Fantastic advice! I'm taking notes so I can sh...Fantastic advice! I'm taking notes so I can share some of this with my clients!Zanna Starrhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07596554739447170460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-5652595404976067382013-02-04T06:45:51.692-05:002013-02-04T06:45:51.692-05:00Mm. Very good point, about even then not knowing f...Mm. Very good point, about even then not knowing for sure. People come in search of confidence and trust - self-trust, in the end - and maybe not every line of questioning is going to help with that.<br /><br />And about something to take away - to do, or not do, or be, but anyway some way to complete the sentence, 'I need to know this <b>so I can</b>...'Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08993925796633388101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-51667329744290037842013-02-03T23:34:57.657-05:002013-02-03T23:34:57.657-05:00Hi Hilary,
That's just it. A reading...for wh...Hi Hilary,<br />That's just it. A reading...for what? Information, sure, but what can you actually DO with it? I've experienced the "quicksand" readings. We can delve deeper and deeper into the other person's life, thoughts, potential actions and to what end? It ends up being absolutely useless to the querant beyond satisfying a bit of curiosity. And even then, how do we know for sure whether what is being shown in the reading is accurate? We don't and we can't unless the other person somehow confirms it. Which means I will indulge curiosity only so far, because...well...we're human and we just want to know, but beyond that, no. We all need something to take away from the reading, something to DO that is productive and affirming to moving ourselves forward. <br />Ginny Clayton Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18429211666726488097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-45154744714100181142013-02-03T15:24:55.386-05:002013-02-03T15:24:55.386-05:00Superb wise post, hooray for you!
I wrote an advi...Superb wise post, hooray for you!<br /><br />I wrote an <a href="http://onlineclarity.co.uk/answers/2011/04/25/advice-for-relationship-readings/" rel="nofollow">advice for relationship readings</a> post a couple of years ago, with its own 'helpful and not-so-helpful questions' - it looks as though we're thinking along similar lines!<br /><br />I'm not keen on 'nosey puppy' readings (brilliant illustration, by the way!) - not so much for any absolute moral reason as because I don't think I've ever seen anyone actually helped by one. Readings as a help to understanding in conversation - superb. Readings as an alternative to conversation - quicksand. What's your experience with that?Hilaryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08993925796633388101noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-11298031652980737912013-02-03T11:35:09.410-05:002013-02-03T11:35:09.410-05:00Although I completely understand the desire to kno...Although I completely understand the desire to know what that other person is probably going to do, and I honestly don't mind throwing a few cards on these nagging questions because those are the ones that keep us up at night, they just shouldn't be the primary subject of the reading. Thank you for sharing that experience, Sally. It's true that tarot will keep showing you to yourself until you get it. :) Ginny Clayton Hunthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18429211666726488097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-23654922521851968922013-02-03T07:50:02.456-05:002013-02-03T07:50:02.456-05:00Hi Ginny, this is such a wise and helpful post. Be...Hi Ginny, this is such a wise and helpful post. Being relatively new to tarot, I initially found the same cards were appearing when it came to advising about certain relationships (work and social), I then began to understand that in order to attract positive friendships it was important to be kind to oneself and rethink my priorities in order to become a rounder and more approachable person. As a result i've walked away from alot of negativity and begun forming more stable and pleasing friendships.Seaside Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06297238636589387489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-30754098.post-54727991756390600762013-02-03T01:11:28.581-05:002013-02-03T01:11:28.581-05:00What a great post - thank you. It is one of the he...What a great post - thank you. It is one of the healthiest approaches I have read yet on relationship readings. Joannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14848163712532842129noreply@blogger.com