Ooo get the boots! I was in the same position about 7 years ago with a very similar looking pair of brown leather boots that were around $400. I bought them, and I have never looked back! Still wearing them 7 years later!

Very cool spread! This reminds me of the facebook meme going around, "What society thinks I do, What my mom thinks I do, etc. etc."

Ooooh Brigit, you enabler! And Siddaleah, ha! I didn't think about that meme, but yeah, it is! :)

Bless you, Ginny! Honestly, I'm so happy I've found this site. I've been out of my head trying to make a definite choice about something that has pegged me to no end, and suddenly I stumble upon your website to find the perfect spread! This helped me out of my indecisive misery, or at least clear the air. I hope you don't mind me sharing my thoughts on the cards laid down before me. Hopefully I'll help some other poor lass or block decipher their own!

Note: I’d like to warn beforehand that, yes, this is a love spread.

My Mind: 10 of Cups - A generally happy card, but I usually associate Cups with "flights of fancy." Perhaps my mind is creating all these possible outcomes of us ending up "happily ever after." What if I finally made the move and we became this lah-dee-dah couple? It seems unrealistic to me. In my personal experience, 10s are usually a sign of fixed endings.

My Heart: 9 of Pentacles - Ah, this particular gal always strikes my fancy. She seems so content in her tidy garden, as if nothing could go wrong... or at least, for now. 9 being the number of fulfillment (and since we're looking at a Pentacle card here), it definitely reaches out to tangible and realistic ventures. Finally something I can work with! When I read your description of the 9 of Pentacles, something hit me... the word "benefactress" has bells ringing in my ears, since I've always wanted to be “that person” my future partner can rely on. It's difficult to place where she fits into all this, but I can understand why she ended up being in the "heart" position. I truly want to be there for the person I love, financially as well as emotionally.

I want: Ace of Cups (R) – I don’t know how you read reversed cards, Ginny, but I usually see them as indicators of “repressed” or “blocked” potential . I don’t necessarily see them as negative outcomes at all! Even in the upright positions they could mean trouble. Perhaps I want to gush out all my hidden emotion for this person, but for some reason I can’t find the right words to say or I am repressing my own true feelings out of fear of rejection.

I should do: 8 of Wands (R) – This card always screams “action, baby!” to me. But since it is in reverse, it’s difficult to uncover its meaning. Am I holding up? Or would it be best for me to stay in my comfort zone? That’s why it’s so tricky to read tarot cards in reversal sometimes! Perhaps I’m merely delaying the outcome by sitting idly by instead of getting a move on. Perhaps someone could help me with this last one?

With those last two cards I feel you want to spill your guts, but you're holding back because you are afraid you'll be too intense or you won't hit your mark the way you intend. Waite said the 8 of Wands could be said to be "arrows of love." So with it reversed, you're holding those arrows back.

Hey! I liked this spread.

Yet, I would like to ask if anybody knows a spread that will answer the question "What would have been?" Have not found anything like it. Thanks!

I think the spread is very useful. I totally agree with the point you make about using yes/no spreads. I never do. It would really be like flipping a coin and you don't take full responsibility for your decision that way.
When I used spreads like this one, I often found the reading reveals my mind or the querent's mind is half made up anyway.
That's what happened when I tried this, too.
It's in my blog: http://holdingallthetrumps.blogspot.de/2013/01/dear-satu-yours-confused-cat-owner.html just in case you're curious.
Thanks a lot for this, Ginny.

Hey Lady Stardust, in order to answer that kind of query I might draw cards to represent the various options that could have been chosen, but weren't, and then lay three cards above them and see what would have played out. Ultimately, does it matter if those were the roads not taken? I suppose it could bring some peace of mind...or not. It could lead to us kicking our own ass.

Satu, your blog is charming and I loved your example and the use of the Cat's Eye Tarot. Lovely! Usually, what the mind is telling is the most readily available. We hear that most clearly. We tend to dismiss our hearts and desires, though, so those tend to be really important positions. And, quirky human nature being what it is, we also tend to act contrary to our desires, which is why the last position is so important. It takes into account ALL the previous information from the mind, heart, and soul and gives a thoughtful possible solution.

Hey, Ginny. The King of Swords used to pop up A LOT whenever I did a love spread about this guy, and I think with the Ace of Cups and Eight of Wands in reversed, that it was a sign for me to calm down and look at my feelings from an objective perspective. Again, I used to receive the 10 of Cups quite often in the “Want” position, which in hindsight really was me romanticizing a relationship that was toxic from the beginning. If I received, let’s say, the 10 of Pentacles instead my desires would have been more realistic. I just wanted to thank you for responding to my post!

ohh.. i might have to give this lay out a try, it looks like it will be most helpful!!

*beams*

I love the analagy of buying boots. It's a great article.

Thank you. This is a great spread, especially as I always run into head/heart decisions. This has helped me a lot and the writing that goes with it is very thorough. I keep googling and coming back for it.

Great work!

Lina...I'm so glad the spread is useful for you. Bookmark this page! :D